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L16 Video Intro

Video

Joe Mena, Tribe Engagement Leader at City Tribe Church

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L15 Video Intro here

Playlist

Pat Barrett, “Build My Life”
DC Talk, “What if I Stumble”
Tauren Wells, “Hills and Valleys”
NeedToBreathe, “Brother”
Blanca, “All In”

Encouraging Scripture

Proverbs 13:30 Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces.
Proverbs 14:7 Escape quickly from the company of fools; they’re a waste of your time, a waste of your words.
Galatians 6:1-3, 9-10 Bear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important….. So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone—especially to those in the family of faith.
Hebrews 10:24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.

Resources

Books:
The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren
Failing Forward by John Maxwell
Experiencing God Day by Day (Daily devotional) by Henry Blackaby and Richard Blackaby
Video:
Bridgetown Church, teaching video, “A Community of Orthodoxy in a Culture of Ideological Idolatry. Link here.

L14 Video Intro here

Lesson Video:

View Michael Todd’s sermon, “There’s No Condom for Your Heart” here. While we encourage you to view the entire sermon (1 hour and 30 minutes), we will focus on time stamp 32:00 through 1:16:35 (about 45 minutes). Please use the listening guide in Lesson 14 of your Growth Guide to follow along before completing the rest of the lesson.

Playlist

Chris Tomlin, “Forever”
Rachel Hughes/Tim Hughes, “Living for Your Glory”
Joel Houston, “From the Inside Out”
Matt Redman, “It is Well with My Soul”
Grace Larson, “There is Power in the Name of Jesus (Break Every Chain)”
Colton Dixon, “Through All of It”
Zach Williams, “Chain Breaker”
Casting Crowns, “The Well”
For King and Country, “Priceless”

Encouraging Scripture

Psalm 19:14 May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.
Proverbs 12:18 The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Matthew 7:3 Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
Romans 12:3, 9-19 For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you…. Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love.Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor,serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
Romans 14:1-9 Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters. One person’s faith allows them to eat anything, but another, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. The one who eats everything must not treat with contempt the one who does not, and the one who does not eat everything must not judge the one who does, for God has accepted them. Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To their own master, servants stand or fall. And they will stand, for the Lord is able to make them stand. One person considers one day more sacred than another; another considers every day alike. Each of them should be fully convinced in their own mind. Whoever regards one day as special does so to the Lord. Whoever eats meat does so to the Lord, for they give thanks to God; and whoever abstains does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. For none of us lives for ourselves alone, and none of us dies for ourselves alone. If we live, we live for the Lord; and if we die, we die for the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord. For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 16:13-14 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong. Do everything in love.
Colossians 3:13-14 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.

Resources

Video Series:
Michael Todd, Transformation Church: YouTube Playlist for the original Relationship Goals series: here
Michael Todd, Transformation Church: YouTube Playlist for the original Relationship Goals Reloaded series: here
Matt Chandler, Village Church, YouTube Playlist for Beautiful Design series: here [This also available in small group study]

Lesson 13 Video Intro here

Watch this Music Video before starting the lesson:

Tenth Avenue North, “You Are More,” here

Playlist

Tenth Avenue North, “You Are More” (from opening music video)
Phil Wickham, “Great Things”
Hawk Nelson, “Drops in the Ocean”
Sons and Daughters, “I am Set Free”
Steven Curtis Chapman, “Something Beautiful”
Cory Asbury, “The Father’s House”
Danny Gokey, “Love God, Love People”

Encouraging Scripture

Psalm 32:3-5 When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord.” And you forgave the guilt of my sin.
Galatians 6:1-22 Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else, for each one should carry their own load. Nevertheless, the one who receives instruction in the word should share all good things with their instructor. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. See what large letters I use as I write to you with my own hand! Those who want to impress people by means of the flesh are trying to compel you to be circumcised. The only reason they do this is to avoid being persecuted for the cross of Christ. Not even those who are circumcised keep the law, yet they want you to be circumcised that they may boast about your circumcision in the flesh. May I never boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ, through which the world has been crucified to me, and I to the world. Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation. Peace and mercy to all who follow this rule—to the Israel of God. From now on, let no one cause me trouble, for I bear on my body the marks of Jesus. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit, brothers and sisters. Amen.
Ephesians 4:1-6 As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.
Philippians 1:27-28a Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ. Then, whether I come and see you or only hear about you in my absence, I will know that you stand firm in the one Spirit, striving together as one for the faith of the gospel without being frightened in any way by those who oppose you. 
1 John 2:2 He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.

Extra Resources

Book: Andy Stanley, Principle of the Path

L12 Intro Video here

Playlist on Spotify here

Francesca Battistelli, “If We’re Honest”
Leland, “Way Maker”
Zach Williams, “Chain Breaker”
Matthew West, “Grace Wins”
Mercy Me, “Flawless”
Natalie Grant, “Clean”
Sidewalk Prophets, “Prodigal”
Castings Crowns, “Love Moved First”
Matthew West, “Forgiveness”
Lauren Daigle, “O Lord”
Hawk Nelson, “Diamonds”

Encouraging Scripture

Proverbs 28:13 Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.
Ecclesiastes 7:8-9 The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride. Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
Daniel 9:4-5 I prayed to the Lord my God and confessed: “Lord, the great and awesome God, who keeps his covenant of love with those who love him and keep his commandments, we have sinned and done wrong. We have been wicked and have rebelled; we have turned away from your commands and laws….”
Acts 3:19 Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord….
Colossians 3:9b-10, 15-16 you have taken off your old selfwith its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator…. Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts.
Hebrews 8:12 For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.
James 1:21-25 Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.

Extra Resources

Book: Tony Evans, U-turns: Reversing the Consequences in Your Life

L11 Video Intro here

End-of-Intro Video

Link to Nature Conservancy video about forest regrowth: here

Lesson Video for reviewing the brain

Link to Floorplay Coaching, “Explaining the Brain to Children and Adolescents”: here

Playlist on Spotify here

Jordan St. Cyr, “Fires”
Tasha Layton, “Into the Sea (It’s Gonna Be Okay)”
Matthew West, “Mended”
Plumb, “Exhale”
Casting Crowns, “I Know You’re There”

Encouraging Scripture

Psalm 107:13-14 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains.
Romans 12:18-21 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
2 Corinthians 12:9 But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
Colossians 3:13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Resources

Article: Fircrest Behavioral Health, “5 Mistakes to Anger” here
Article: Kyle Benson, “Relationship Connection: 3 Choices that Make it or Break it” here
Book: Lisa TerKeurst, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
Book: Stephen Covey, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

L10 Video Intro here

Abuse Hotlines / Websites

National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
RAINN (Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network rainn.org
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
Victim Connect Resource Center victimconnect.org
1-855-4-VICTIM or 1-800-484-2846

Playlist on Spotify here

MercyMe, “Dear Younger Me” (Note: It’s worth looking into the backstory of this song)
Tenth Avenue North, “By Your Side”
Micah Tyler, “Never Been a Moment”
Ryan Stevenson, “Holding Nothing Back From You”
Zach Williams & Dolly Parton, “There Was Jesus”
Kari Jobe, “I Am Not Alone”
Natalie Grant, “Clean”
Danny Gokey, “Tell Your Heart to Beat Again” (Note: It’s worth looking into the backstory of this song)
Zach Williams, “Rescue Story”
Jesus Culture, “Holy Spirit”

Encouraging Scripture

Psalm 3:5-6 I lie down and sleep; I wake again, because the Lord sustains me. I will not fear though tens of thousands assail me on every side.
Psalm 31:23-24 Love the Lord, all his faithful people! The Lord preserves those who are true to him, but the proud he pays back in full. Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord.
Psalm 107:13-14 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains.
Psalm 146:7-8 He upholds the cause of the oppressed and gives food to the hungry. The Lord sets prisoners free, the Lord gives sight to the blind, the Lord lifts up those who are bowed down, the Lord loves the righteous.
Isaiah 42:3 A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out. In faithfulness he will bring forth justice…
Isaiah 54:10 Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the Lord, who has compassion on you.
Luke 6:27-28 “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you…”
Luke 15:3-7 Then Jesus told them this parable: “Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, ‘Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep.’ I tell you that in the same way there will be more rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who do not need to repent.
John 10:27-30 My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.”
Hebrews 13:20-21 …”My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand. I and the Father are one.”

Resources

Trauma Prayer: jimandpatbanks.com/trauma-prayer
Video: Lisa TerKeurst, “Forgiving What You Can’t Forget” here
Video/Book: Focus on the Family Interview with Jackie Hill Perry about her book, Gay Girl, Good God. Part 1 here; Part 2 here. (and book by the same name)
Article: “Psychology Today: Are You Overlooking or Rationalizing Abuse? That’s Denial” here
Article: “The New Science of Forgiveness” here
Article: “Should I Turn the Other Cheek” by Alison Cook here
Book: Freedom Tools by Andy Reese

Lesson 9 Intro Video here

Playlist on Spotify here

Andrew Ripp, “Jericho”
Zach Williams, “Fear is a Liar”
Hillsong, “Prince of Peace”
Chris Tomlin, “Who You Are To Me”
Casting Crowns, “Oh My Soul”
Kim Walker-Smith / Jesus Culture, “I Need You More”
Building 429, “Fear No More”
Bethel / Brandon Lake, “We Praise You”
Kim Walker-Smith, “Already Have” (Bear’s Song)

Encouraging Scripture

Exodus 14:14  The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.
Psalm 55:22 Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.
Psalm 56:3 When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.
Psalm 103:11  For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him.
Psalm 119:143  Trouble and distress have come upon me, but your commands give me delight.
Psalm 136:26  Give thanks to the God of heaven. His love endures forever.
Psalm 139:16  Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
Proverbs 12:25  Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.
Proverbs 18:10  The name of the Lord is a fortified tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.
Isaiah 12:2  Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation.
Isaiah 41:13 For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.
Isaiah 46:10  I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’
Luke 21:19  Stand firm, and you will win life.
John 14:1  Jesus: “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me…”
Philippians 4:19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
2 Timothy 1:7   For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
Hebrews 13:6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?”

Resources

Videos:
City Tribe Media, “Tafolla Toro: 3 Years of Fear” from 10/25/20. Speaker: Lorenzo Gomez III.

City Tribe Media, “My Peace Is Not Negotiable” from 11/29/20. Speaker: Jubal Garcia

Articles:
Alison Cook, PhD, “Fear in the Bible and 4 Was to Address it” https://www.alisoncookphd.com/fear-in-the-bible/                                                      June Hunt, “Anxiety” https://www.hopefortheheart.org/wp-content/uploads/dlm_uploads/2020/03/Gods-Heart-On-Anxiety.pdf  
Book:
Tafolla Toro: Three Years of Fear by Lorenzo Gomez III 

Lesson 8 Intro Video here

L8 Large Group Lesson for Zoom / Self-Paced here

Playlist on Spotify here

Tasha Layton, “Look What You’ve Done”
Hillsong Worship, “Who You Say I am”
Mercy Me, “Greater”
Big Daddy Weave, “Redeemed”
Stars Go Dim, “You Know Me Better”
Stars Go Dim “You Are Loved”
Matthew West “Hello My Name Is”
Hawk Nelson “Drops in the Ocean”
Tenth Avenue North “No Shame”
Lauren Daigle “You Say” 

Encouraging Scripture

Genesis 1:27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lordlooks at the heart.”
Psalm 25:1-2 In you, Lord my God, I put my trust. I trust in you; do not let me be put to shame, nor let my enemies triumph over me.
Isaiah 50:7 Because the Sovereign Lord helps me, I will not be disgraced. Therefore have I set my face like flint, and I know I will not be put to shame.
Isaiah 54:4-5 Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your Maker is your husband—the Lord Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.
1 Corinthians 3:9-10 For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care.
1 Corinthians 3:16 Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in your midst?
Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved meand gave himself for me.
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Ephesians 3:12 In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence.
Hebrews 12:1-2 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.
1 Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.

Resources

Articles:
Desiring God, “Breaking the Power of Shame,”
https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/breaking-the-power-of-shame 
ABWE International, “Don’t let Sexual Shame Move You from
Christ’s Mission,”
https://www.abwe.org/blog/don’t-let-sexual-shame-move-you-christ’s-mission-0 
Identifying the Strongholds in Your Life by Shegz n Stuff  http://www.shegznstuff.com/blogofshegz/identifyingstrongholds  
Books:
Unashamed by Christine Caine
Shame Interrupted: How God Lifts the Pain of Worthlessness and Rejection by Edward T. Welch
Seeing Yourself Through God’s Eyes by June Hunt (31-Day Interactive Devotional)
Hello My Name Is by Matthew West

Lesson 7 Intro Video here

Audio: Mother Apology/Blessing

Rock Thomas video link mid-lesson

Rock Thomas, Goalcast video link: here

Audio: Father Apology/Blessing

Playlist on Spotify here

Ryan Stevenson “Holding Nothing Back”
Skillet “Stars”
Brandon Heath “Whole Heart”
Chris Tomlin “You’re a Good Good Father”
One Sonic Society “Great Are You Lord”

Encouraging Scripture

Exodus 15:13 With your unfailing love you lead the people you have redeemed. In your might, you guide them to your sacred home.
Psalm 29:11 The Lord gives his people strength. The Lord blesses them with peace.
Psalm 89:13-18 Powerful is your arm! Strong is your hand! Your right hand is lifted high in glorious strength. Righteousness and justice are the foundation of your throne. Unfailing love and truth walk before you as attendants. Happy are those who hear the joyful call to worship, for they will walk in the light of your presence, Lord. They rejoice all day long in your wonderful reputation. They exult in your righteousness. You are their glorious strength. It pleases you to make us strong. Yes, our protection comes from the Lord, and he, the Holy One of Israel, has given us our king.
Psalm 102:27 But you are always the same; you will live forever.
Psalm 116:1-2 I love the Lord because he hears my voice and my prayer for mercy. Because he bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath!
Isaiah 41:13  For I hold you by your right hand — I, the Lord you’re God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.’
Jeremiah 31:25 For I have given rest to the weary and joy to the sorrowing.
John 3:16-17 For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him.
John 10:14-15 I am the good shepherd; I know my own sheep, and they know me, just as my Father knows me and I know the Father. So I sacrifice my life for the sheep.

Resources

Study book about your mother’s impact:
Our Mothers, Ourselves by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
Parenting books for secure attachment parenting:
The Power of Showing Up by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
No Drama Discipline by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne BrysonThe Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Video:
“4 S’s of Attachment-Based Parenting” (Safe, seen, soothed, secure). Dan Siegel interview with Jayson Gaddis; (FYI: meat of the interview begins at 22:30) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zV2nLEeh0c